We've probably had the majority of the cuteness and exhaustion and tears. My daughter is no longer a toddler, but a little being trying to understand concepts (Why has appeared in her vocabulary; why?) and she almost dresses herself into leggings and tops. Gone are the cute outfits prolific on the racks for Under 2s. She's finding her identity and I'm rediscovering mine.
Towards the end of my pregnancy all those years ago, I was waddling around Boots one afternoon, when I happened upon a Benefit makeover. I was glad of the chance of a free sit down and the Assistant wasn't salesy, nor was she orange-faced. I think she had a six-month old, so she knew. She knew that would probably be the last time I'd really think about make-up.
I came away from that session with an obsession with Benefit's Porefessional (it really does reduce my humongous nose pores), and I still use the Dandelion blusher. In the first few months of a baby's life everyone is so generous with gifts that I could use my money to spend on myself, so at some point I picked up other items on the Benefit list, probably before my little girl arrived.
But recently I've realised that I need to wear make-up more than I ever have done. You know what I mean? It’s not just my eyes, but my skin looks shattered, as well as lifeless.
I’ve always had a great skincare routine, since my late teens, but I never wore a made-up face for work, unless I had a big presentation, or needed a bit of a confidence boost. I'd been in a relationship for four years ... well, I abandoned yucky foundations and eye-shadows the first time Mr S15S told me I was beautiful without muck on my face (yes, he’s a keeper). I probably wore make-up in work after maternity leave, for a few weeks, until I realised that more sleep was preferable to spending additional time in the bathroom.
I'm now a couple of years away from 40, and whether or not I'm reliving my teenage years again, I can't quite tell, but I have become absolutely frigging distracted by accumulating make-up products.
I've a particular fondness for minis - they look fabulous, and don't cost too much (especially if people are having a declutter on eBay), and fit in a little bag. A couple of years ago I fell in love with BB Cream, which I know keeps me looking good (for an actual 12 hours!). I use No 7, but during leaner months I've bought a BB from George and one from Tesco (My Sister swears by Rimmel, and my Mum uses Avon).
I know what I like (to look flawless, obvs) and what doesn't suit me (the lilac eyeshadow of my youth), and I literally have a four-minute window to pop on my new face, before my daughter appears to open my treasured mini products (!) I also have far less money than I did as a full-time employee.
In the last year there's been a lot of chat on the Twitter and YouTube about a couple of budget brands, which, as a Mum or a Mummy, on part-time hours I am definitely interested in. You may have heard the talk, too, about:
Make-up Academy (MUA)
Both brands are available from Superdrug (in store and online), and stock goodies from £1. I don’t think I’ve seen an item over £10.00. Now, not only are they fabulously well-priced, but their real secret is in their quality, and their resemblance to high-end products (Revolution's The One Concealer for Benefit's Fake Up; both have eye palettes inspired by Urban Decay or Too Faced; the MUA lip glosses do the same job as Rimmel's Apocoliptic range). Both budget brands offer simple, and therefore stylish (obvs.) packaging ~ so, if you put your make-up on while commuting, or at your desk, the products don’t look cheap in front of others.
Perhaps it’s the range of affordable choice that I’m attracted to, with MUA, which I’ve been using for around six months, and now with Revolution which I’ve just added to my little bag (I stock the palettes in a larger bag; they’re for playtimes). I can try out all these eyeshadow primers, and bases and lip lacquers and wotnot that promise to highlight and sculpt and wotnot, and not have to spend my daughter’s university tuition fees.
My four minute face-on goes a little like this:
- Clarins Beauty Flash Balm which I apply as a primer (you wouldn’t start cooking dinner on a surface littered with crumbs, would you?) – they advise to apply make-up right away; fine with me!
- Squeeze out the Porefessional and blot (rub) into my nose. Sigh of relief at instant effect.
- BB cream application, well-blended. I only need a little, and if I don’t rub in straight away it seems to dry and leave patches. Rub like hell to avoid streaks.
- Add concealer to eyes (a copy of Touche Eclat) either from No 7 or Asda, depending on pay day proximity/desperation).
- Wash hands of product.
- Apply pale eyeshadow (Clinique quartets are great) (use a primer beforehand if I remember, no worries if I don’t) with blending brush
- Apply Benefit Dandelion blusher to cheeks (and nose/forehead/cheeks) with travel brush.
- Apply MUA mosaic blusher to add definition to cheeks. (Don’t forget nose/forehead/chin), again with travel brush.
- I periodically apply Vaseline to my lips, then concealer and finally an MUA lipstick (or a Benefit lip tint depending on the occasion/time of day).
There you go, that’s make-up for me as a Mum approaching 40. If you have teenagers they probably already have MUA or Revolution in their bedroom, so you may need to double-up on products. But at £20 for a decent haul you can afford to!
Have you found that you’ve started to wear more make-up as you charge through parenting? How long do you give yourself to put on your face for the day? Share your tips, dupe discoveries and thoughts with other readers in the comments section below!